your needs, desires and life itself in the holy feets of shirdi
Sai will bless you with peaceful
Shirdi Saibaba blessings for Marriage and
his presence in your wedding depends on how much you leave the rights
of choosing your husband/wife to saibaba's will.
Saibaba always supported unity and
harmony amoung different caste & religions :
I am writing this article after being shocked by the mails i received
in the past 2 months from september 2007 to november 2007, believe
me , i recieved atleast 3-4 mails each sent my Shirdi saibaba devotees
who says their parents or relatives ( or their soulmates parents
) are not supporting their marriage just because they belong to
different caste. I can't believe some parents even don't bother
if their dear children attempt worst possible things which i can't
I hope i wont be hurted my any parents for writing this article.
I mostly support parents because am sure only a mother knows whats
good for her child but i also have to speak generally so that they
can keep this article to take further decisions. I leave the decision
whom your son or daughter must marry to your self.what i write here
are just words which will help us understand Our SAIBABA ALWAYS
ENCOURAGED MARRIAGES BETWEEN DIFFERENT RELIGIONS AND CASTES.
Irresespective of the fact that few parents though they love to
accept their childrens wish, they have to face relatives and society.
Especially they have their own status and image etc. But if you
think hardly and if you feel your daughter or son has selected a
good hearted girl or guy and the only reason you avoid their proposal
is becase of caste /religion issues, please think again....I request
you, please think again .Who's life is it. Who is going to live.
You or your son/daughter. Its their life.Do not fear for image and
Imagine that you are in dwarakamai
and asking Saibaba's permission :
Look at Photo or statue of shirdi saibaba or go to a Temple of
shirdi saibaba and whole heartedly ask baba the following ....
Try to keep your family isolated in saibabas kingdom and imagine
what will Baba sai if you humbly leave all your ego, pride , status
"Sai , my son/daughter wants to marry
a girl/guy from another religion or caste, i have been following
this tradition for generations and also worry about status amoung
relatives, please guide me to take proper dicision "
If you pray whole heartedly,am sure sai will surely lead you to
a happy married life for your children. I don't know your specific
problem and situation.May be its complicated to the extent that
you cant accept your children to marry a girl/guy from another caste
or religion. But please leave all your worries and false statue
and think one minute who is going to be benefitted if you sacrifice
your false believes to make your children happy. Only if you get
a understanding son in law or daughter in law, it will be beneficial
for you. Money and education won't do much but a good hearted girl/guy
can bring peace in your family forever.
I am just a ordinary person trying to help children of shirdi saibaba
to understand Baba's heart. Rest depends on your own wish based
on how much you understand your children and Saibaba himself.
Saibaba does not like converting
religion just to get his blessings :
i have a sai friend in Saibaba temple who is elder in his 50s and
a very good soul. we used to talk about Sai Baba sometimes.
Today he was telling a beautiful incident from Narashimha swamiji
( Not sure about book and i really don't
have proof for this incident but i am writing here because only
his discussion and another girls mail about caste problem in her
friends marriage inspired me to write all that you read in this
page .So even if this below incident din't happened in Baba's life
i am thankful for my friend as he made me write a article which
i wanted to write for a long time )
Once a person heared about Sai Baba's fame that there lives a
saint called saibaba who is a muslim Fakir. Somehow this person
who is a Hindu got interested in converting as Muslim especially
because he wants to get blessings of saibaba.
Now the person came to see saibaba in dwarakamai. Baba got enraged
and told him "Dont come here hurting your father"
The person was not able to understand Babas words as he never had
any problems with his father who is a Hindu. The Baba told him
"Your religion is a gift given
by God based on the good deeds you did in your previous births...No
body has rights to change religion because changing religion is
a sin equal to hurting ones own father"
( Here sai's expresses he is against converting religion just to
get blessings for materialistic life. Today most people convert
to other religion just with false idea that the other GOD will benefit
them. Don't these people realize theres no different Gods and different
saints. All Gods and Good saints are one. I am adding "good"
because there are lots of false saints and gurus out there but only
they have big crowd who blindly follow them for materialistic benefits
.........Am sure sai supports converting religion if you like their
tradition, way of living and concepts etc )
My sai friend was telling this incident and
added, that theres only proof that sai is a muslim fakir but he
has everything in himself. If you see him as Ram , he gives you
Ram darshan and if you worship him as Shiva like megha did, he will
bless you with shiva darshan
When Baba does not support even
convertion of religion, how will he differentiate between castes
Baba just says you be where you are. If you are a muslim pray Allah
and be in your path, If you are Hindu don't create sects there also,
If you love shiva go in your path and if you love vishnu go in your
path...and if you are a chirstian , pray Jesus , mary and go in
Our sai is so sweet that he works based on the concept of reality
"God is One - Sabka Maalik Ek"
Please take this article as a message
from sai and i leave the decision in your hands :
So these shirdi saibaba devotees who are hurting themselves and
their children just for the sake of prestiege and blind tradition
must understand Babas heart that sai never has cast, creed or religion.
Everyone are equal to him and sai love him who sees a person in
every religion an caste as his own.
Note - The incident i mentioned above has
no proof as i just heared my sai friend discussing it in Nagasai
mandhir on 11.11.2007. Even i wonder if this incident really happened
in Babas time but i took it positively because even if its imaginary
, it helps us understand that sai supported different caste and
even different religion marriage whole heartedly and based on your
own individual problems you and your parents must seek guidance
of sai to take proper decision.
Always in relationship issues never
hurry. Take time, think properly and act according to Sai's will
The best way to act according to sai's will is to imagine that
you burnt your image in society, image amoung relatives and friends
& ego , pride, status etc in the DHUNI ( sacred fire of baba
). Then whole heartedly think what will you do if you have Baba's
heart.....Then seek baba's guidance.Surely your/ your children's
life will be good.
Both parents and couples who are in love please forgive me if i
am wrong. I am just a ordinary humble servant of saibaba of shirdi.
I love sai all my life and doing all this just to make sure few
yougsters who are shirdi saibaba devotees gets some guidance based
on which they and their parents can sit togather, discuss, try to
divert the misunderstanding in their family by involving in little
good deeds like Annadhan for poor, giving dress for poor and also
doing any pooja for shirdi sai baba so that they will finally be
able to understand each others feelings, most importantly understand
Baba's ways and heart to take a decision for a beautiful, peacefull,
happy married life.
Always in feets of shirdi sai
Dear friend, try to do any of the below pooja in starsai.com instead
of always worrying about your life. Am sure sai will bless you with
a happy married life. You can mail me also. As a sai friend, i shall
reply when i have time but again i must say am also a ordinary person
and all i do is join you to pray sai whole heartedly for your good
Pooja for children of Shirdi saibaba
to gain blessings of Sai for peaceful married life
nav guruwar Vrat Pooja
Shradha Saburi Pooja for Saibaba
of Sai Baba by lighting lemon lamps
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